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Serving - Nickelback's "Never Again"
A psychologist looks at one of today's hottest singles and album cuts
By Dr. Bruce L. Thiessen, a.k.a. Dr. B.L.T.
Album Cut: "Never Again"
He's drunk again, it's time to fightIt's the stuff that screams are made of. It's a dizzying diatribe on domestic violence, delivered on a platter constructed of blood-drenched hard rock. Blow by blow, you will feel the urgency, outrage, and force of Nikelback's backhanded backlash against perpetrators. Teens won't find this one in their daddy's rock collection. Its not cast to the beat of a bleeding heart, like Alice Cooper's "Only Women Bleed." That dulcified 70's ballad slowly and gently removed the band-aid. Nickelback's "Never Again" rips it off and shoves your face right into the raw, gaping wound. The song is a poetic vendetta that could serve as a mini-soundtrack for an act of vigilante vengeance or a retaliatory assault with a deadly woman like the one depicted so skillfully by Farrah Fawcett in the movie __Burning Bed__. The first time you hear it, it will knock you off your feet. The second time you hear it, you will want to turn your head from the brutal beat, pretending that this stuff just doesn't happen. The third time will be a dubious charm, as it alarms, then disarms all of your defenses.
Just tell the nurse, you slipped and fellYou want to believe him. Domestic violence perpetrators invariably display symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. As such, they can be every bit as charming as they can be deadly and destructive. If untreated and unexposed to divine intervention, rage-fueled repetition compulsion is much more powerful and more persistently dependable than any promise of never again.
The sociological commentary offered in the form of "Never Again" depicts the self-destructive nature of human beings more succinctly and passionately than Friedrich Nietzsche or Sigmund Freud did in several volumes of philosophical and psychological discourse. It will take a good psychologist 15 hours of psychotherapy just to begin treating a physically and emotionally abusive male. In less than four minutes, Nickleback removes all self-deception and boldly unmasks the self-destructive nature of the man who beats the one he claims to love. This won't take the place of a good therapist, but it can open a wound that, once opened, can no longer be ignored.
Language in "Never Again" is inappropriate for children, but such tough language directed toward an adult-child with a proclivity towards violence may be all they can understand.
When love and peace are bought at all costs, including blood loss, you've got a serious, potentially fatal situation on your hands. It's time to do something about the problem. Listening to "Never Again" again and again is a great place to start.