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Ask the Rock Doc:
Dr. BLT offers advice for a song to music-minded youth and adults in crisis.
The following inquiry has been paraphrased, with certain details omitted and/or altered to protect the confidentiality of the subject.
Dear Dr. BLT:
name is Neil, but my friends call me SocraTease. That's because I
am so philosophical compared to most of my peers, and when I'm on stage,
I tease the audience with my guitar licks, always leaving them wanting
more. Lately life seems like the biggest tease of all. I am
19 years old and I feel like an old, dying man. In one of your articles
I got the impression you were into the Beatles. Well, the song I
identify with most is "When I'm 64." I feel like I'm at least 64,
going on 90. I used to believe in happy endings. No matter
how tough life would get, I always told myself that
my girlfriend, Anna, who was also my band-mate, told me that she wanted
to let me go because I was dragging her down. I was very close to
her. Not only was she the creative force behind the band, but she
and I were planning on getting married and touring around the country with
the band. There are a lot of hopes and dreams that are all dashed.
We were just in the process of putting a band together that the other band
members wanted to name after me, SocraTease. Although we hadn't lined up
any gigs yet, rehearsals were going well. We took pride in our own
unique blend of
more than her presence in the band. Anna has been my main source
of emotional support ever since my parents split up two years ago.
Now life doesn't seem worth living. It's all meaningless, boring
and sad. I sometimes wish I was never born, simply because every
time things appear to
Dear SocraTease on His Knees
a big Beatles fan. I'm sorry that you identify so closely with "When
I'm 64," because it means that you honestly believe that life has passed
you by. It hasn't, but I understand why you feel like it
Socrates, who seemed far too eager a sheep before the slaughter, you take
comfort in the idea of death. And yet even Socrates, who would boldly
and happily die for a noble cause, refused to take his own life until he
was forced to do so by his enemies. Before you share in the poison
What you are thirsting for, your x-girlfriend could never supply, only God can.
of the most memorable lines in the Beatles classic song, Help! is "Help
me get my feet back on the ground..." I hope to get you started
back on your feet, but while your ex-girlfriend seemed disgusted by the
sight of you on your knees, this is exactly where you need to be right
now. I'm not
are only human, and it hurts to be human. Having the capacity for
self-awareness sets you, as a human being, apart from other creatures.
But it also allows you to experience hurt in all of its psychological depth.
It gave you a mirror which gave you a sense of identity.
But for you, that
In addition to losing your identity, or seeming to lose it, you lost your awareness of the meaningfulness of life. Logotherapy is an existential form of therapy designed to help folks like you find meaning life. It was a system of therapy invented by Viktor Frankl. Nobody understands pain like Vicktor Frankl. He was captured by the Nazis and held prisoner from 1942 to 1945. Those were years in which he was not only separated from loved ones, but brutally tortured. Yet he survived because he learned how to find meaning in the midst of suffering.
now you are too close to the pain to find the meaning, so I expect that
you will not seek it out immediately. It may not be time for that
meaning to be revealed. It may simply be time for you to feel the
pain, hopefully while surrounded by friends and family members who love
you and care about how you feel. Maybe it will also mean seeking
out professional help, particularly if you are considering suicide.
If that is something that you are seriously contemplating, I would recommend
checking yourself into the emergency unit at your local hospital, or at
least having a trained professional test you to determine if you are a
risk to yourself.
don't seem so hard to me
On Bended Knee, words and music by Dr. B.L.Thiessen, 1997, 2004
(standard column summary blurb here)
you're a musically-minded person whose life has become out of tune,
P.S. I wish you and your band overwhelming success. Congratulations on your success so far!