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Serving: Review of Paul Anka’s (You’re) Havin’ My Baby*
by psychologist and expecting father, Dr. Bruce L. Thiessen, aka Dr. B.L.T.
*Released in 1974 by Papa/United Artists
Havin' my babyI better make this short. My wife is due within the next couple of weeks to have our first baby, but all indicators seem to point to the possibility that our little baby girl, Kassidy Dawn Thiessen (for all of you talent scouts out there looking for the next big thing), may want to arrive at the Thiessen household a little early.
They don’t call me The Rock Doc for nothing. When I feel something, I immediately search for a song to match my sentiments. The feeling could hit me at anytime, so I don’t always have immediate access to Google. If I’m driving in my car, or if I’m near a radio, I’ll do my sentiment searching by surfing the radio waves. Sometimes I’ll go through a stack of CDs. But I don’t always have immediate access to a radio, or to CDs, for that matter. Sometimes I turn to my brain, which, (when it isn’t working on the title or idea of my next new song), is filled with thousands of familiar songs. Sometimes, the phenomenon I refer to as “song-sentiment searching,” can take a while. But when I discovered nearly 9 months ago that my wife, Roxie, was pregnant with our first baby, Paul Anka’s 70s classic, (You’re) Havin’ My Baby was immediately re-discovered, and ultimately “adopted” (pun intended) as the “one-song soundtrack.” First of all, there are few songs written about having a baby. Second, a song about having a baby, written from a male’s perspective is even a rarer phenomenon. But if there were a thousand songs written about the anticipation of this life-altering event, all written from a man’s perspective, none would likely capture the sentiment, as I feel it, quite as aptly, quite as brilliantly, or quite as poignantly as this Paul Anka classic.
Didn't have to keep itThese lyrics are “living” proof that (You’re) Havin’ My Baby is imbued with an empathy-enhanced pro-life message---one that carries with it a universal significance and value that transcends one man’s experience of becoming a father. In fact, the song could easily serve as a pro-life anthem. It would be a far more positive method of urging women in the throes of an unplanned pregnancy to have their child than signs depicting disturbing images of destroyed fetuses or signs containing such judgmental words such as “BABY KILLER!” I am a Christ-centered, pro-life psychologist, but I urge all who espouse a pro-life message to deliver that message with the utmost sensitivity, grace, and compassion towards women in the throes of an unplanned and/or unwanted pregnancy.
The need inside youNot only does the song seem to convey compassion and empathy for the woman who will ultimately bear his child, but the song is partially sung by a woman, (namely Odia Coates) whose voice convincingly conveys a passionate, heartfelt longing to have their child. After Odia joins Paul in the chorus, she re-enters the song by herself in a grand fashion with these touching words:
I'm a woman in love(You’re) Havin’ My Baby celebrates life in a way that few songs do. It transformed Paul Anka from a teeny-bop idol and one of American’s first true “American Idols” to a seasoned pro and an American hero among expecting fathers like myself. Paul Anka’s voice has changed since his teen-age debut. It has become richer, more haunting, and perhaps more melancholy. But in this song, it conveys a deep passion and a celebratory-yet-sensitive sentiment. When I first heard it, I was as young as Paul was when he wrote his very first song. I liked it then. I love it now. I love it enough to re-make it, in my own “shrink-rap” fashion. That’s just what I did. Actually, giving birth to this cover tune came quite naturally. I didn’t even require a C-section, it took me closer to 9-minutes than 9 months, and I didn’t have to go through hours of painful contractions. I can’t sell it until I get permission from Paul Anka, so Paul, wherever you are (most likely performing the song in Las Vegas), feel free to listen to and/or download this version for free, then get back to me and tell me what you think. My wife will soon be havin’ (our) baby, and we want to thank you for providing the “one-song soundtrack” for what I’m sure will undoubtedly become our life-altering event.
Dr. B.L.T.’s “shrink-rapped”
Cover of Paul Anka’s (You’re) Havin’ My Baby: