Perhaps no other song on
the album _So This Is It_ defines the soul of Kim Dexter more than "Wait
(I'm Gonna Get There)" a duet recorded with the superbly talented Bryan
Duncan. The upbeat pop melody oozes smooth vocals, great instrumentals
and words that come straight from Dexter's heart.
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Mesa California with husband Paul and five month old daughter Maggie Grace
life couldn't seem more distant from the dark days that once shrouded the
life of this immensely talented young woman. So This Is It recalls the
faith, the supportive friends and the God that Kim Dexter clung to during
the time that Mayfair Laundry (her former ska/punk Christian band) experienced
bankruptcies of not one but two record labels. During these years Dexter's
previous marriage also lay shattered.
Maybe you are reading this
today, have gone through your own difficult valleys and don't know where
to turn. Dexter has a message for you. "Seek God with all of your heart
because He will rescue anybody in their situation. He will literally open
every door that you need. Seek a local church if you are not already involved
with one. God will guide your life in the right direction and you will
find the healing and help that you need. Read scripture and hold onto the
promises. Know this is a fact and it doesn't matter what it looks like
or how you feel, God promises that He will be with you," she said.
"Broken Hearted," the third
track from So This Is It poignantly recalls such a time in Dexter's
Broken all of my toys on the floor.
Shaken what a surprise, I can lose everything, but
Wishing somehow to turn back the time.
Missing all that I held to be true and Divine.
The life I had thought was mine.
Darker skies I havent seen before.
Deeper seas to never reach the shore.
I'm left here with this pain.
"'Broken Hearted' came from
a place of being very broken. It was a time in my life where I was in transition
from everything really. The band was on a hiatus and things in my
life had taken a turn. Unexpectedly a huge relationship in my life came
to an end. It hit me all at once and at the same time I was feeling distant
from God. Everything in my life was spiraling downward. I was devastated.
I was severely depressed. I was counting on God in every way. I went to
Him as my only resource. I had no peace other than knowing that God was
still in control of my life and that somehow He was going to get me through
this. I was in bed crying and praying. I opened my Bible and started
soaking it in page by page. A lot of times in the middle of the night I
would go to my piano and start singing and playing. I just started pouring
my heart out," she said.
Looking back at that time
in her life Dexter said, "It seemed unimaginable to me that my life would
be okay. He promises these things in the scripture. That is what trusting
is. That's why it is hard. Having faith and waiting, seeking the Lord everyday
and not turning anywhere else, (it's about) not giving up. He will get
you through it."
So This Is It might also
be described as Dexter's victory chant and if that is so songs such as
"Fill Me Up" and "Mostly I Love You" are the passionate words of jubilation.
She said, "Mostly I Love You” is a phrase that I said to my husband Paul
who was my boyfriend at the time," She laughed and giggled as she remembered.
"I was talking about all the things that I liked about him, Her voice became
gentler and sweeter, "And I said, 'Mostly I love you.' I started
thinking that is how I feel about God after going through all this stuff
and feeling so much closer to Him. I just adore Him and know that He (God)
adores me. I am so grateful for His mercy in my life. He walks me through
these trials and I am so grateful for everything. When it comes down to
it there is just something in my heart that is almost the same kind of
relationship I feel with my husband and my baby. There is just no other
thing to even say (but mostly I love you)."
In addition to giving us
a glimpse inside the life of Kim Dexter So This Is It is simply an outstanding
album. She and producer husband Paul Dexter surrounded themselves with
some very talented and highly regarded musicians. Names that jump out immediately
are guitarist Tim Pierce (Phil Collins, Aly&AJ, Faith Hill, and Bon
Jovi), bassist Matt Bissonette (Boz Scaggs, Ringo Star, Rick Springfield)
and drummer Vinnie Colaitua (Natalie Cole, Irene Cara, Billy Joel, Herbie
Dexter said, "It was an
honor for me just to have those guys play and to see the songs that I wrote
at my piano develop into these pretty big productions. It was a great opportunity
for me with this being my first solo record."
When I contacted Colaitua
he echoed the same sentiments about working with the Dexters, "I had a
wonderful time working with both Kim and Paul. They are just wonderful
people to work with; very professional, and very, very talented! They have
truly blessed me!"
Just as Shania Twain found
with her hubby "Mutt," Lange and Cheryl Bentyne (Manhattan Transfer) discovered
in her solo career with producer husband Corey Allen, there is a chemistry
that cannot be denied when Dexter hooks up with hubby Paul in the studio.
She said, "He is my biggest fan and the most amazing producer. He has a
good vision for what I want to do with the songs."
Motherhood has introduced
new joy into Dexter's life and presented some challenges as well. Some
of the challenges associated with being a new mother occurred before the
birth of Maggie Grace. When I asked Dexter how close to her daughter's
birth she continued to sing she replied, "Ohhhhhh it was crazy, three weeks
before delivering. That last one was unbelievable. I had this huge stomach
and I couldn't breathe very well. I thought, 'This has got to be the end
of it.' I was (thinking) “Can I just get through these songs and sing most
of the notes on key?'"
"(Being a mother) reminds
me of how much God loves her (Maggie Grace) because I love her and would
do anything for her. Four months ago (at the time of the interview) I didn't
even know her. Now I would lay down my life for her. The amount of
care and patience it takes to deal with her and (to see) how helpless she
is without me has opened my eyes a little bit. It has made me more compassionate
towards everyone," she said.
"We have been toying around
with the idea of doing a new project. My last project was all about the
misery I was going through, holding onto God and getting through it. Now
I feel like I am in the season of just reaping blessings. God has brought
me through so much. Every idea that I come up with right now is just from
a different place. I am so blessed and amazed at God's grace on my life,"
Dexter said. Dexter talks about having so much joy in her life that she
wants the opportunity to share with others and believes that joy will infuse
the songs on her next CD.
By Joe Montague, exclusive
Joe Montague is an internationally
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of his late son Kent David Montague who went to heaven at the age of 18.
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