Your Gateway to Music and More from a Christian Perspective
Slow down as you approach the gate, and have your change ready....
the Rock Doc
By psychologist, Dr. Bruce L. Thiessen, aka Dr. BLT
*Some of the following inquiry and reply content may be altered to protect the confidentiality of the inquiring party and to illustrate key psychological and spiritual principles.
Dear Rock Doc:
Then it happened. He stood me up at one of my gigs, and the phone stopped ringing after that. I was worried at first that he was in an accident or something. Then, about a week later, I learned from a friend that he was out with some other chick. I confronted him the day she confided in me, and he admitted it. It was a nightmare. He was totally cold to me. Ever since the day I approached him, I feel like a fool. Iím filled with rage for most of each day, followed by sadness and tears every night. I canít concentrate on anything. Valentineís Day is going to be hell. Please help.
Girl Betrayed by a Drummer Over the Summer
Dear Girl Betrayed by a Drummer Over the Summer:
I canít write much as Iím suffering from Carpel Tunnel Syndrome and it is painful if I type too much. But I would like to respond by saying that the feelings you are experiencing are normal, but you need help. Musicians can be traitors, but music will always be there for you and it will never betray you. Hereís the song I recommend for starters (yeah, I know my voice is a little rough and nasally on it, and so if you know someone who can sing it better, let me know).
Iíd like to recommend that you begin writing a journal documenting your journey to heartbreak recovery. After listening to the song, reflect on your feelings and make the first entry in your diary. In the diary, create a heartbreak recovery plan. The plan should include surrounding yourself with good friends, seeing a therapist, taking about your feelings every day to your friends, and once a week with your therapist, and asking the Holy Spirit, the comforter to comfort your sorrow, and lead you on your journey to recovery.
Youíll survive Valentineís Day. I know you will. And you will not only survive, but thrive in the days, lonely nights, weeks, months and years ahead. Iím sorry for your loss. Let me know where your journey takes you.
Dr. BLT, The Rock Doc
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