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Single Serving:
A psychoSONGanalysis by psychologist, Dr. Bruce L. Thiessen, aka Dr BLT 
Song: One More Sad Song 
Band: All-American Rejects 

The band is incredibly talented, but the music is unapologetic pop rock.  The music of All-American Rejects doesn't break any new musical territory, but it is clever, catchy and irresistable.  I am focusing almost exclusively on the lyrics of this song as I examine the song from a psychological perspective. 

One boy, one girl, two hearts, their world
Time goes by, secrets rise
One more, sad song, tears shed, she's gone
She'd take it back, if she only could 

As time goes by, and a relationship grows, one might expect that each member of a given couple becomes increasingly transparent and disclosing. Unfortunately, this is only for the case involving relationships built on mutual trust and the sense that one can be free to disclose and still not be rejected by the receiving party. As the song suggests, secrets rise. As secrets rise, the safety and security of the relationship becomes threatened.

And all the perfect words they seem so wrong,
She's gone
You wish that you could learn to see,
The door is closed and you wish you could be 

If there were only perfect people in this world, we would not become distrustful of perfect words. But, with the knowledge that we are all imperfect, a display of perfect words indicates only one thing: An act. 

Why do people entering relationships go in blindly? Why do they only wish to learn to see? Seeing things the way they really are, often times means never getting into the relationship in the first place. When we want to get into a relationship, and we want to for all the wrong reasons, sometimes we opt for blindness.

Alone with you, alone with me
What can I do, I cannot breathe
My heart is torn, for all to see
Alone with you, alone with me. 

This is the verse that brings out the subject's sense of being alone, whether with, or without the person. It is the existential sense of being all alone in the world. This sense can be so overwhelmingly threatening that a person is willing to enter relationships characterized by pseudo-mutuality. 

Best friend, worst thing, she's been, cheating
Friend deceives, she leaves
Last date. She cries, whispers, goodbye
She walks once more, out that door 

When you cheat on somebody, and that person finds out about it, abandonment is accompanied by a profound sense of betrayal, and an overwhelming sense of anger turned inward, shame and inwardly-directed anger over trusting in somebody that proved not worthy of such trust. 

And all the perfect words they seem so wrong,
She's gone
You wish that you could learn to see,
The door is closed and you wish you could be

Alone with you, alone with me
What can I do, I cannot breathe
My heart is torn, for all to see
Alone with you, alone with me.

Please stay, don't go away
The hardest thing is letting go of you
Please stay, don't go away
The hardest thing is letting go of you
what can I do? 

No matter how bad a person may treat you, or how profoundly a person you've trusted has betrayed you, if you've allowed your heart to become involved, letting go of the person can be profoundly difficult. If it's somebody else that's been betrayed, it's easy to say, "He are she was no good, just let them go." Easier said than done for the person whose been cheated on and betrayed.

Alone with you, alone with me, what can I do?
I cannot see, alone with, alone with,
alone with you, alone with me, what can I do?
I cannot breathe, my heart is torn for all to see,
alone with you, alone with me 
Alone, indeed

How would I rate these lyrics in terms of cathartic or therapeutic value? 

I'd give them a 3.8 out of 5. 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

 

 
 
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